The psychology of seduction | Raj Persaud | TEDxUniversityofBristol

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Psychiatrist Dr Raj Persaud argues much human distress arises out relationships. But we can all become more skilled in our relationships be they in the domains of friendship, romance, work or career. Deploying the psychological principles behind seduction, the author of a new book on dysfunctional love - 'Can't Get You Out Of My Head' - explains how improving how seductive you are, will also lead to benefits across many other aspects of your life, beyond just romance.

Raj Persaud is a Consultant Psychiatrist who has written and broadcast widely in the mainstream media besides working as an academic and clinical psychiatrist, achieving the senior post of NHS Consultant Psychiatrist at the Bethlem Royal and Maudsley Hospitals from 1994-2008. He has won numerous academic distinctions including the Royal College of Psychiatrist’s Research Prize and Medal and holds amongst 8 degrees and diplomas including a First Class Honours degree in Psychology.

This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx


watchman on the wall

Everyone wants to MEET the right person, but very few want to do the very hard work of BEING the right person.

11 months ago | [YT] | 981

Kylie Blair

Not even super interested in the subject but the speaker kept me watching till the end- he's wonderfully eloquent, keeps bringing up facts/statistics to back up his claims, and simplifies complex ideas to an understandable level. This is an idealization of the basic idea of Ted Talks, which lately I've noticed have seen a decline in quality as most anyone can present at TedX events...

2 years ago | [YT] | 3,074

AG

Interesting that his last name is Persaud, awfully close to the word "Persuade", while giving a lecture on seduction

2 years ago | [YT] | 2,792

Miming Cat

I met a girl, found out she needed another guy, I then focused all my efforts to help her get that guy. And she did. Am I doing this right?

1 year ago | [YT] | 2,672

Ashley Anderson

he needs to do audio books

1 year ago | [YT] | 1,996

Neu bornchild

Insane charisma. Sound like he was reading on a promptor, so well prepared and competent! I wish i could do speech like this

2 years ago | [YT] | 2,227

andrew domenitz

Filling the unmet need is the key to being a salesman.

1 year ago | [YT] | 1,188

Speaking

"Fill the unmet need." Wonderful, what a wise statement!

3 years ago | [YT] | 1,625

Allie Ante

What an ending! (Spoiler alert!)
"I apologize I've run out of time so I won't be able to answer those questions. But, is it possible that leaving you, wanting more is kind of a seduction?"

Great ending!

2 years ago | [YT] | 621

SlowCountryBoy

The speaker states at the end, "...isn't it possible that leaving you wanting more is kind of a seduction?" So I'm guessing you have to go to his clinic to get more...

3 years ago | [YT] | 1,353

President Santana

This guy is explaining GAME in psychological terms. Listen up suckas!

2 years ago | [YT] | 270

E J

Tips for Seduction
1. Based on social psychology experiment, being disagreeable then switching halfway through to being agreeable makes you more attractive to the other person. An artificial "warm up" is created
2. Attention, interest, and maintenance. Different skills are necessary for each phase. Attention being am initial spark, interest being a focus on short term charms, and maintenance being long term commitment and patience.
3. Appealing to bolster their weaknesses into strengths. Finding an unmet need, and fulfilling it.

8 months ago | [YT] | 185

Mandy

Reminds me of why people like people who 'play hard to get', it's because being able to see that change/impact that happens is seductive... when that person finally 'warms up'

2 years ago | [YT] | 584

Ajha Persaud

I watched this because my name is almost the same as this man.

2 years ago | [YT] | 670

G G

awesome, he's a class speaker, well-paced, very intelligent and his voice is so soothing lol. I'm seduced :)

2 years ago | [YT] | 433

papoutsothiki

I guess in order for seduction to be good (and ethical) it must be genuine and kind or else it's nothing more than a meaningless game.

1 year ago | [YT] | 251

Aly Sinatra

lol im good at taking people who are rabbidly in love with me and making them somewhat disinterested.. rather than this vice versa thign called 'seduction'

2 years ago | [YT] | 481

onnaonah

Is he saying that all we want are tsunderes

1 year ago | [YT] | 203

Rosalyn Uv

He's a great speaker...if that's a seduction...I got seduced! :)

2 years ago | [YT] | 509

Avinandan Dey

sijuicing

1 year ago | [YT] | 101


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